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My Response to ‘Is my husband raping me?’

Misogynists, sexists, bigots, and mouth-breathers like this one seem to have a big moral disagreement here. More so on their part due to being comfortable with being willfully ignorant.

It’s the sexist, ableist, bigoted fundamentalist “Christians” that society needs to worry about. Here’s my response to a forty-year-old hypocrite. Enjoy.

Let’s just get to the gist of this blog post: Rape is rape. Your bible may tell you otherwise, but there’s a reason why people go to jail for following such atrocities that are found in a book from religions taken from other religions. Christianity is a bastard of other religions yet it’s the one true religion. It’s used to excuse all kinds of terrible things in today’s society. Rape is just one of them.

When the lady that left you an anonymous question about her marital problems, you should have left it alone. From the looks of it, you’re not a marriage counselor. You’re not equipped to discuss what happened in their marriage. You don’t have the credentials or a license. The things you said were immoral, wrong, and disgusting. You’re disgusting.

You broke down her question in multiple parts. I shall do the same with your responses.

1. Was the husband wrong for having sex with his wife while she was pregnant and in pain?

You told her:

It depends. Had he just had sex with her in the last few days? Then perhaps he should have put her need to not experience more pain and discomfort ahead of his need for sex. But if she had been in pain for weeks or a month and he finally came to her and said “Babe I need this, I promise I will make it quick” – then she should have put his need for sex above her need to not experience additional discomfort.

Sometimes though a woman cannot have vaginal intercourse for medical reasons beyond just discomfort. For instance most doctors advice women not to have vaginal intercourse for 6 to 8 weeks after giving birth. If a man were to try and have vaginal sex with his wife during this period it would be highly painful for her and it might cause complications with her healing process. But that does not mean a woman cannot meet her husband’s sexual needs in other ways during this time. God has given her the ability to manually or orally satisfy her husband in order to meet his sexual needs. Christian wives ought to do this for their husband’s during this post birth period, and for that matter any other period when they may not be able to physically have sexual intercourse with their husbands.

My Response:

You’re sick. No, It DOES NOT depend on anything. If a woman says no, that’s what the she means! As a woman who just gave birth 7 months ago, sex was the last thing on my mind. Even the weeks after. There’s this thing called science. What it tells us about the human body, the mind, and the libido is this:

Estrogen levels go down after delivery. That can cause a shortage of vaginal lubrication, which can make sex painful or less pleasurable. Hormonal changes after childbirth might also be related to postpartum depression, which can stymie sexual desire. These feelings of sadness, anxiety, irritability, or just having the blues may last for a few weeks or even months. [Source]

There are plenty of other sources, too. Maybe you should have done a quick google search instead of using your book of lies, but that’s too much like right. Moving on from that, if a woman does not want to give her husband a handjob, blowjob when intercourse is out of the question she doesn’t have to. That’s just common fucking sense. You say you’re all about feminism, but you’re not. You’re the complete opposite. I get it. You want to follow the bible down to the letter, but you’re divorced. Remember when I called you a hypocrite? Here’s why:

Matthew 19:9
And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.

Malachi 2:16 
For the man who does not love his wife but divorces her, says the Lord, the God of Israel, covers his garment with violence, says the Lord of hosts. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and do not be faithless.

1 Corinthians 7:10-11
To the married I give this charge (not I, but the Lord): the wife should not separate from her husband (but if she does, she should remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband), and the husband should not divorce his wife.

Let me guess, you divorced her so that makes it okay? Nope. Wrong. Incorrect. Do not stop, do not pass go. Go straight to jail. You’re a hypocrite. Simple.

2. Was the husband wrong for having sex with his wife even when he knew she did not want to?

Your response:

As I have said before, I have never advocated for a Christian husband to force himself upon his wife. But contrary to what feminists and other marital rape accusers say – there is difference between a husband convincing his wife to let him have sex with her and him physically forcing himself upon her.

Rather than hash this out again here – I have answered this entire issue from a Biblical perspective in the my article “Is a husband selfish for having sex with his wife when she is not in the mood”. But the short answer is no he is not being selfish for having sex with his wife simply because she is not in the mood. The Bible is clear that for the purposes of sex “The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.” – I Corinthians 7:4.

My response:

YES! He was wrong. There is no difference; force is force! There are laws that protect her from that. Making someone do something they don’t want to do is force! I don’t care if they’re married! “But the bible told me so!” See my response to the first question. Also see separation of church and state, too. Your “bible” may be clear on what a woman can and cannot do with her sex life – even after being translated all to shit – but the laws of the state do not go by your rules, they go by the states. You may have forgotten this, but this country is not founded on religious beliefs or values.

You’re trying to sugarcoat and twist things to make it fit your twist agenda and it’s disgusting. There needs to be consent or have you forgotten that? Did you even know? Probably not.

3. Was her husband treating her like a whore?

Your response:

“He treats me like a whore”, “He treats me like a prostitute” and “He only wants me for sex”. These are three common statements that we hear from wives (Christian and otherwise) about their husbands frequently online and elsewhere. What wives who make these statements are actually saying is “He does not romance me anymore, he does not talk to me enough and spend time with me outside the bedroom enough”. When wives express these sentiments it comes from a place of them feeling like their husbands have not earned the right to have sex with them. Only when their husband makes them feel the way he once did, then and only then will they be able to have sex with him without feeling like “a whore”, “a prostitute” or “just plain used”.

A husband should know his wife, and part of knowing one’s wife is talking to one’s wife. I wrote an entire post on this subject entitled “10 ways to know your wife”. So if this woman’s husband was failing to talk to his wife(outside of when he wanted sex), but rather on a daily basis – getting to know what was going on in her life a daily basis – then he was in the wrong. Also as part “knowing one’s wife” he would know if he listened to her that she needs to be touched on a regular basis, and not only in a sexual manner when he wants sex.

But where this point of “I feel like my husband’s whore” falls woefully short is two wrongs never make a right. Her husband doing the right thing – talking to her on a daily basis and knowing her better is NOT a prerequisite to sex in marriage. She seems to have been very grudgingly yielding to her husband, and while a Christian husband can accept grudgingly yielded sex – it does not make it right on the part of the wife to have such a horrible attitude.

My Response:

You’re serious, aren’t you? Your “logic” is frightening. When a man cheats on their wife it is somehow translated to the wife having a sense of entitlement, arrogance, and an expanded ego? Did you think that through before it left your fingers? I already know the answer to that. You make women look like the bad guys when there IS no bad guy here. The wife has a horrible attitude? Who the fuck raised you, Jim Jones?

Enthusiastic consent doesn’t only apply when we are teaching our kids about rape culture. Enthusiastic consent should be a given every, single time you have sex. And if you don’t feel like having it — men or women alike — you shouldn’t be guilted into it on the premise that it makes you a better partner. It has nothing to do with satan, god, or the bible. These are human lives that have feelings. Women are NOT robots. We ARE NOT your sex toys. We will NOT roam around in this sexist world believing that shit – for those who are awake anyway.

Question: Where in the fuck did you get quotes from satan from? Did you type out that nonsensical tripe yourself? I’m only asking because you had it quoted with no source:

If he makes you feel loved, then by all means give your body to him, enjoy great sex based on your passion for one another. You don’t need to be married, follow you feelings wherever they lead you. The minute he stops making you feel loved, dump him and move on to another new romance. This does not make you a whore. Whores have sex with men just to have sex, you are having sex based on your feelings of love and that is noble and right. But remember my golden rule – don’t do anything you don’t feel like doing.

Remember what I told you when you were single. That applies when you are married too. If he makes you feel loved and is passionate and romantic and you feel like having sex with him, then by all means have sex. But if he does not make you feel loved, or if the passion fades stop having sex with him and make it clear he has to make you feel loved and romanced like he did when you first together.  If a long time goes by and the feelings of love don’t come back, dump him (divorce him) and move on to the next guy. Even if your husband does make you feel loved, you never should have sex with him if you don’t feel like it, never forget my golden rule – don’t do anything you don’t feel like doing.

Remember you were wondering if you were being a whore by sleeping with men when you were single? Well you know what a real whore is? It is a wife who has sex with her husband when she does not feel like it, and especially when she does not feel loved or romanced.

This is how I know you’ve gone off the deep end:

These two lies of Satan play out in almost every TV show and drama movie that we see today. I pray to God that the Christian women of this world will repent of believing these lies of Satan. A woman who has sex with her husband, even when she does not feel like it, even when her husband is not doing everything he should, is doingEXACTLY what God wants her to do. She is living according to the Spirit, and not according to the flesh.

Women are being murdered for less. I hope there isn’t anyone reading your articles and go off and rape their wife or girlfriend. I would say that blood is on your hands, but that’d be false. It’s on the bastard who wrote the bible’s hands. No, it wasn’t Jesus or god. Well fuck, they’re the same person, you get it.

4. Was her husband wrong for getting her drunk for sex?

Your response:

This is an easy answer – yes he was wrong. It is never right to encourage drunkenness in someone as that is sinful. Does this wrong rise to the level of allowing for divorce? No. In this case she needed to exercise restraint and not engage in getting drunk.

My Response:

Jesus hung around with thieves, liars, and prostitutes, you know. I don’t see you quoting those scriptures or looking up the actual history of Cesare Borgia. I was almost with you till the end. I don’t know what fun house you’re in, but it must be lavish if it has internet access. I do like how you add your own rules to a set a rules that don’t need revising. Anyone who’s anyone that has read the bible knows that women are property and should follow all the rules that the husband has laid out for her.

But hey, guess what? Marriage predates religion, just so we’re clear. It definitely predates Christianity, in case you didn’t know. I have a feeling you did though, you just have the incessant need to grasp as straws that aren’t even there.

As far as the rest of your nonsense goes, you were simply repeating yourself. You’re sick, you’re disgusting, you’re a misogynist and you need to be locked away with the rest of the loonies from Looney Town.

Maybe you read this far, maybe you haven’t, but I’d love for you to take a gander at THIS blog post. It’ll probably make you angry. I’m hoping it does.

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Pastor Dies From Praying For Protection From The Very Same Snake That Bit Him

On this episode of ‘What the Fuck Do Religious People Be Thinking?!‘, we take you to Full Gospel Tabernacle in Jesus Name Church in Kentucky, Middlesboro. Damn that was a mouth full.

Pastor Jamie Coots died of a snake bite. He was bitten by a rattlesnake Saturday during one of his church services. Death. Snakes. Church. Pastors. All words that have been in the same sentence quite a lot these past few years.

Coots was a former bus driver and a star of ‘Snake Salvation’, a reality television show on National Geographic. Coots was handling a rattlesnake to demonstrate his unending faith to his lord and Christ. He was bitten soon after.

He believed he was commanded to handle snakes, and if in danger or bitten he was forbidden to seek medical attention. Instead, it was required that he pray for healing.  The family’s strong belief in Pentecostalism, arguably the most important mass religious movement of the twentieth century, is thought to protect them from venomous snakes.

Seriously, guy? All those other pastors dying from this very same thing must have flew under your radar. Or this is one of those “he wasn’t a true man of faith which is why those other guys got a bit and died” moments.

He had one of the rattlers in his hand, he came over and he was standing beside me. It was plain view, it just turned its head and bit him in the back of the hand … within a second,Cody Winn; Preacher

Emergency responders were called to the scene, but Coots already went home. When the emergency responders arrived at his home Coots had passed away from his snakebite after refusing care.

Coots was carrying on his family’s 100-year tradition “in the name f god”. Coots had allegedly been bit eight times before and he assumed that he would recover like last time. Coots lost a finger in the past from a serpent bite after it rotted and fell off.

Coots death, of course, didn’t change their faith or reasoning. They will continue to handle snakes in his honor; in god’s honor. You’d think after a woman died after a snake biting them at their church in the past that they’d hang up their dangerous practice. Nope.

I guess faith as tiny as a mustard seed means shit to reality.

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What If There Was No Black People

This is a story of a little boy named Theo, who woke up one morning and asked his Grandfather, “What if there were no Black people in the world?”

Well, Grandfather about that for a moment and then said, “Son, follow me around today and let’s just see what it would be like if there were no Black people in the world. Get dressed and we will get started.”

Theo ran to his room to put on his clothes and shoes. But there were no shoes, and his clothes were all wrinkled. He looked for the iron, but when he reached for the ironing board, it was no longer there. You see Sarah Boone, a Black woman, invented the ironing board and Jan E. Matzelinger, a Black man invented the shoe lasting machine.

Theo ran to the internet for a chat with a friend, the internet was not working. Dr. Mark Dean-An African American Invented Many Of The Programming For The Internet Experiences We Enjoy Today.

He looked for his mobile phone, but it was not there because, The inventor of the Cellular phone is Black man Henry Sampson.

“Oh well, “Grandfather said, “Go and do your hair.” Theo ran in his room to comb his hair, but the comb was not there. You see, Walter Sammons, a Black man, invented the comb. Theo decided to just brush his hair, but the brush was gone. You see Lydia O. Newman, a Black female invented the brush.

Well, he was a sight, no shoes, wrinkled clothes, hair a mess without the hair care inventions of Madam C. J. Walker, — well, you get the picture.Grandfather told Theo, “Let’s do the chores around the house and then take a trip to the grocery store.”

Theo’s job was to sweep the floor. He swept and swept and swept. When he reached for the dustpan, it was not there. You see, Lloyd P. Ray, a Black man, invented the dustpan. So he swept his pile of dirt over in the corner and left it there. He then decided to mop the floor, but the mop was gone. You see, Thomas W. Stewart, a Black man, invented the mop.

Theo thought to himself, “I’m not having any luck.” “Well, son,” Grandfather said. “We should wash the clothes and prepare a list for the grocery store.” When he was finished, Theo went to place the clothes in the dryer, but it was not there. You see, George T. Samon, a Black man, invented the clothes dryer. Theo got a pencil and some paper to prepare the list for the market, but noticed that the pencil lead was broken, as well he was out of luck because John Love, a black man, invented the pencil sharpener. He reached for a pen, but it was not there because William Purvis, a Black man, invented the fountain pen. As a matter of fact, Lee Burridge invented the typewriting machine, and W. A. Lavette, the printing press.

So they decided to head out to the market. Well, when Theo opened the door, he noticed the grass was as high as he was tall. You see the lawnmower was invented by John Burr, a Black man.

They made their way over to the car and found that it just wouldn’t go. You see, Robert Spikes, a Black man, invented the automatic gear shift and Joseph Gammel invented the supercharge system for internal combustion engines.

They noticed that the few cars that were moving were running into each other and having wrecks because there were no traffic signals. You see, Garrett A. Morgan, a Black man invented the traffic light.

ELIJAH J. MCCOY Africa-America Inventor 57 U.S. Patents Lubrication Steam Engines.

Well, it was getting late, so they walked to the market, got their groceries and returned home. Just when they were about to put away the milk, eggs, and butter, they noticed the refrigerator was gone. You see, John Standard, a Black man, invented the refrigerator. So they put the food on the counter.

By this time, they noticed it was getting mighty cold. Theo went to turn up the heat and what do you know, Alive Parker, a Black female, invented the heating furnace. Even in the summer time they would have been out of luck because Frederick Jones, a Black man, invented the air conditioner.

It was almost time for Theo’s father to arrive home. He usually took the bus, but there was no bus because its precursor was the electric trolley, invented by another Black man, Elbert T. Robinson. He usually took the elevator from his office on the 20th floor, but there was no elevator because Alexander Miles, a Black man, invented the elevator. He usually dropped off the office mail at a nearby mailbox, but it was no longer there because Phillip Downing, a Black man, invented the letter drop mailbox and William Barry invented the postmarking and canceling machine.

Theo sat at the kitchen table with his head in his hands. When his father arrived he asked, ” Why are you sitting in the dark?” Why?? Because Lewis Howard Latimer, a Black man, invented the filament within the light bulb.

Africa America George Carruthers developed ways to use ultraviolet imaging in order to view images in deep space that were previously impossible to see. In 1972, Carruthers invented the “Far Ultraviolet Camera/Spectograph,” the first moon-based observatory. It was used in the Apollo 16 mission. Then, in 1986, one of his inventions captured an image of Hailey’s Comet—the first time a comet had ever been pictured from space.

Benjamin Montgomery – born into slavery in 1819 in Loudon County, Virginia. Benjamin invented a special propeller which allowed steamboats to navigate in shallow water.

A Slave Bradley Helped Set Up Scientific Experiments.In The 1840s, He Developed a Steam Engine For a War Ship.

Theo quickly learned what it would be like if there were no Black people in the world.

Not to mention if he were ever sick and needed blood. Charles Drew, a Black scientist, found a way to preserve and store blood which led to his starting the world’s first blood bank.

And what if a family member had to have surgery. This would not have been possible without Dr. Daniel Hale Williams,

So if you ever wonder, like Theo, where we would be without Blacks? Well, it’s pretty plain to see, we could very well still be in the dark!

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People Actually Thought A Pastor Undressed Female Church Members And Kissed Them On Their Asses

Let me be the first to say on the behalf of the sensible, reasonable, logical black community that’s peeking around the corner at you idiots:

YOU’RE FUCKING STUPID!

Simple.

Because why?:

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And don’t you fucking shrug your shoulders, roll your eyes and tell me ‘because, Jesus wept’! If Jesus was real, you damn fucking right he wept. Cesare fucking wept! You know full fucking well this wasn’t what it spread around the internet to be.

Why?!

What was the point in this exactly? Can you imagine how that played out in Church? Can you imagine the fucking uproar? Maybe not, black people tend to just pray it away using their faith to make it work. Tsk.

Let’s entertain this though. Let’s entertain that he did go through with this because most pastors are perverts. You know what happened? He sat at his desk with his deacons and they congregated:

Pastor: Hey man, I got blue balls. The wife ain’t giving it up. Should I just go after one of the church members?
Deacons: No, dude are you slow? They will run and tell EVERYBODY!
Pastor: *Rolls eyes with an exasperated sigh* Any suggestions?!
Deacons: Man, I don’t know. We need a scheme. These bitches will fall for anything.
Pastor: Yea, you’re right about that and even if I don’t even get the booty, I at least want to touch one.
Deacons: *Lights somehow come on upstairs. Must have rigged their line up with the neighbors* Get them naked!
Pastor: What?!
Deacons: Did we stutter? Get. Them. Naked. And Ooh, ooh! Tell them it’s for religion. Tell them you have to kiss their ass to give them the blessing of Jesus.
Pastor: But, Jesus kissed feet, not asses. Wait, wait, did he kiss feet or did they kiss his feet?
Deacons: Hell if I know, you on or not?
Pastor: As long as it’s on a beach then I’m ready like Freddy!”
Deacons: *In unison* I’ll get the camera.

Get the fuck out of here!

I’m only a bit deterred about this because people didn’t fact check. Black people are spreading this around; atheist pages …are spreading this shit around and um, stop it. It’s from a porno shoot. I’ll save that for a different blog post.

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53% of Americans Believe They Have a Special Relationship With God

castiel This is not a shock to me. Just look at how they act. Anyway, a new poll has revealed that more than half (53%) of the 1000 people who took a recent survey believes that god has them in their top 5. How cute. You’d think since god has them on speed dial that he’d call since it’s been a while. There’s so much turmoil and I’m sure the prayers are flying, so what’s going on? A more important question: What makes America think they’re so special that they receive special relations with big the ‘G’ itself? Here’s a not-so-shocking fact: Black people make up 62% of the survey that believe they have a special relationship with god. I guess they truly believe they’re blessed and highly favored. *barf*

“African Americans were also among the most likely to share the belief, at 62 per cent, along with 59 per cent of Southerners.” [Source]

Seriously, where are all the lottery winners? Where are all the people cured of severe medical illnesses? Where are all the amputees who’ve grown limbs back? All I’m seeing is NBA teams winning games and finding lost car keys. That’s some relationship you have there, Christians. I’m jealous.

When you live in a certain area and come from a particular background anything will seem like a blessing when it’s in their favor.

Black people actually believe white chalky Jesus favors them. So I’m assuming they were okay with slavery and all the racism that’s still poisoning this nation today. They’re okay with being systematically wiped out of existence. They’re okay with all of that because in their mind: “If it’s white then it’s alright!” I still haven’t gotten over the fact that these very same black people will kick their own flesh and blood to the curb for being gay or an atheist, but will forgive a serial killer for shooting up their church and proceed to burn them down – with them in there if they could get away with it. There has to be a point when all this Stockholm syndrome nonsense runs its course – into a solid brick fucking wall.

The praying, the forgiving, it needs to stop. Black Christians, you need to stop. You’ve been doing this for centuries and the only thing that seem to change is how they kill you and when. Just because you got accepted into Brown College or your lights are on for another day because money somehow appeared in a pair of jeans you forgot you had and found them in the back of your closet on laundry day doesn’t mean god did it. This very same god that you think is giving you special attention just killed a lot of us.

This very same god you’re so gung-ho about is not helping you. WAKE UP. You’re not special to a ghost, a myth, a story. “God to be the glory!” on your feet making the change you want to be, not on your knees doing absolutely nothing.

Black People…

I haven’t made a post like this in a while and I know I’m going to get slack for it. There’s just something that’s been on my mind..

Black people…

You’re too forgiving; too fucking peaceful to the very people who’d rather see you dead. You’ll argue all day about what the next person is doing with their lives. but won’t put that energy into something that can possibly make a change. You’ll kill someone over a corner in a neighborhood that you don’t own but can’t put that same goddamn energy into something that makes much more sense.

Out of all the things you shouldn’t be doing is praying. It hasn’t solved anything. You’re giving the white man your prayers and forgiveness. but people in your own lives get disowned for less; kicked to the curb over something you’ll regret later. You’re your own worst enemy and something needs to change. Stop the fucking praying, you’re wasting your time. You think those white people you’re so readily and easily able to forgive is actually praying? Do you think they actually believe that nonsense they brainwashed you with?

Black people, we need to do something and hands clasped in prayer is the definition of doing absolutely nothing. You won’t be able to see change because you’re afraid. That’s what they want you to be; they want you to be afraid, delusional, and blind. They want you think people like us are crazy.

Wake up!

The worst thing you could do is give racist people your “forgiveness”. They damn sure wouldn’t give you theirs.

That’s my five cents…

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‘I Luh God’ | Black Embarrassment Television

I unfortunately, ran across something I wish I hadn’t. I guess that’s the price I pay for using social media. What I saw made me lose all hope for the religious black community. A song called ‘I Luh God’ by a “gospel” singer named Erica Campbell.

This is what Erica Campbell had to say:

Everyone doesn’t speak properly. Everyone doesn’t live in a well-maintained manicured neighborhood. People live in rough neighborhoods and they speak how they speak. No matter where you are, you have to acknowledge that you’re blessed. Everybody don’t like it. Some people are upset about it, but they’ll be all right. God don’t live in a box. Why should I?

Because – lazy ass – you’re supposed to be above that. You’re supposed to do – and be the opposite of what society expects. Jesus fucking Christ you religious people are something else. Not only are you religious while black, you’re proving a stereotype a lot of black people are trying to get rid of.

I read somewhere that someone called her the Beyoncé of gospel music. Just to add insult to injury…read this:

In response to the criticism, Erica Campbell told the The Tom Joyner Morning Show that the song was made in the trap/hood style to appeal to people in lower-income neighbourhoods, like the one she grew up in.

If I slam my head on my desk any harder, I’d be just as dense as her.

I get it, black people are simple creatures when it come to music, but don’t insult us. I ‘luh‘ god? Are you serious? I don’t know what’s more embarrassing: The blatant and very much intended spelling error, the trap house music style to the song, the entire song itself, or the people who’s eating this shit up.

These kinds of people have no shame because the dollar amount takes care of that. Maybe I should go into religious work. It seems that’s where the money is. My morally sound conscience can’t lie to people and use them for monetary gain though, so there’s that.

But what the fuck!? Really?

The song is on youtube, but the video isn’t, which is why I haven’t posted a video of it here. But here’s a link to the video because you can’t just listen to the song, you have to see the full effect of that nonsense in all its glory. Let me know how it ended, 1:40 in and I was through.

I never understood how the religious could say that’s the devil’s music and then turn around and use the same type of music to put in gospel lyrics and says it’s for Christ.Yea, I guess that makes it okay. 

Get the fuck out of here.